Many of you can understand from personal experience that when it comes to the ending of relationships it can be a very painful and confusing time. Often times individuals cling to relationships that have long past their expiry date. Or some leave far too soon, not really giving the relationship and their partner what they really deserve which is an honest effort. Relationships can really take a beating and can still recover from mind blowing extremes. Even build a stronger, happier and healthier relationship than before the troubles, break or split up. However there are times in which there is a point of no return and there will not be a positive outcome should the relationship continue on. Here are a few signs that your relationship is very much over and you really should consider a new path, a new direction for your personal well being.
SIGNS Your Relationship Is Over:
1. From the outside looking in this first sign would seem fairly obvious. Unfortunately when an individual invests their heart, soul, enough time and effort it might not be so clear. If you HATE your partner or your partner hates you, it is over. I am not talking about being angry, hurt or upset. I am referring to deep-seated resentment and viscous thoughts, words or actions. If one of you wishes bad upon the other or goes to the extent of causing harm in anyway to the other.
Most couples will experience conflict and difficulties that can lead to one acting out whether it is through self sabotaging behavior or reaching out to someone outside of the relationship. Extramarital affairs and cheating are often a result of struggles within the relationship. For the most part self sabotaging and cheating is not hating your partner, although it can be depending on the circumstances. The hate I am referring to is deeper and darker. It is a feeling of loathing or disgust. There is no way to come out of this in a positive way.
2. The next sign is the opposite of the first sign. If you feel nothing at all and you really don't care anymore, it is over. Too often in the heat of the moment, the height of an argument or fight, one partner leaves or calls it quits. Depending on the situation this can be the wrong decision. If you still care, especially if you care very deeply then it could just be space or time that is needed, not a complete split. When it is very much over is when one or both really doesn't care anymore. For example there would have been a time when the thought of your partner with someone else would make your heart hurt but now you really don't care. One of the hardest break ups is when one individual cares very much but the other does not. Not caring at all is the tell tale sign that you are finished.
3. The third sign is when there is no more laughter, it is over. When the dynamic within the relationship has become so serious and the lightness is gone completely this is a horrible place to be in. You would be surprised to know how many couples can laugh during or after an argument. Sometimes even if the conflict is over very serious issues. This is an indication of a lightness within the energy dynamic that is very positive and safe. If you still can laugh with your partner there is still some magic and something powerful there.
When it comes to matters of the heart there is an infinite amount of possibility. Loving and passionate feelings can open doors within you that reach you on a soul level. Powerful feelings that really bring out the best in you. If you ever reach a point that you have become the worst version of yourself do not ever ignore this. There is a Dr. Phil quote that I really do agree with: "The only thing worse than being in a bad relationship for a year is being in a bad relationship for a year and one day."
~ Dr. Phil.